torsdag 16 september 2010

the female ideal of the Western world is not the only right one...

In the last few days I've been involved in a couple of very heated discussions on the subject of the new law proposed in France that would forbid women from wearing a burqa. It's a tricky question, and I do understand those who see the burqa as problematic in a western society, but I do not agree that the solution is forbidding the use of it. Restricting people from manifesting they're own culture rarely leads to any good. There are, in my opinion, valid arguments for not using burqas, but they are definitely not religious arguments! And I have to say I'm a bit disappointed by the ethnocentric point of view and arguments that many of those I have been discussing with are voicing. A lot has been said about this, and I see no point in re-stating arguments already made, but if you want to broaden your view I suggest you read this (it's in Finnish).

On another point, I was once again today presented with a new theory by my shrink. He thinks I'm too independent and unable to show any weakness and that that is the reason I am alone. I don't make people feel needed. Maybe he's right. But then again, I can't picture myself acting all helpless just to make some guy feel strong and needed. That's pathetic from both aspects. Why do men need a woman to need them in order to feel strong? And why do women regress to helpless children to get a man? Is that equality? I'm not saying it's not, I'm asking, because this is something I have a really hard time understanding. I could go on and on about this, but it's late and I need to get some sleep. A friend from Brazil is visiting and I have the day off tomorrow (as always on Fridays). Boa noite!

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  2. I completely agree with you in the burqa question. No good can come from restricting people from expressing their own culture. And I am not even satisfied with some of the arguments the counter party gave. Probably next to go from western culture are party masks and halloween outfits too?

    And to your loneliness question:
    Its a fact which I am starting to realize too. People think of you through how you make them feel about themselves. Weird isn't it? Very egocentric you might say. If you act like you dont need anybody, people seem to act like they dont need you either. In Finnish we have a saying: Metsä vastaa kun sinne huutaa. Its pretty spot on in this situation. We all have our weaknesses and strengths. We just have to recognize them and except ourselves the way we are in order to be happy. You definately dont need to act like you are helpless, but you do need to give credit to people around you, that are good at what they do best.

    I like reading your thoughts about life:) A refreshing blog!:)

    Ps. The're = They are, Their is the possessive form

  3. I agree, you should most defenitely give credit to those around you that make you happy, give you joy, teach you new things, and what not. The difficult part, the part I'm trying to work on, is realizing when you are shutting people out. It's not always intentional...